Do Orgasms Relieve Anxiety?

Great sex on a regular basis can, in fact, relieve or eliminate stress and anxiety. Sexually active adults are generally less stressed, calmer, and happier. Why? Sex causes a release of oxytocin and endorphins, similar to those released during exercise. The release of these chemicals helps bring about a sense of calmness and clarity. But here’s the ironic truth, or shall we say the “catch-69”: although a hot sex life can help relieve stress and anxiety – stress and anxiety can kill a hot sex life.

For many adults, going without sex can lead to the buildup of even more mental tension, which, if left unchecked, can ultimately bring about a lessened sense of self-worth. Once that occurs, the sex machine inside you can shut down completely, blocking you from the benefits of this very natural and beautiful act. Furthermore, according to a study sponsored by the University of Gottingen in Germany, sex-less people often take on more work to compensate for their frustration. And taking on the increased labor results in – you got it – even less sex.

For you sexless adults, this isn’t to suggest that you rush out the door and find any willing libido to help kick-start a sex life for you. Selectiveness is key. It also doesn’t mean that staying home and using self-satisfaction techniques (masturbation) is an equal substitute to getting it on with someone special. Actually, if you can achieve orgasm alone, but cannot through sexual intercourse, you could have performance anxiety. Most doctors agree that the positive effects of sex on anxiety are magnified when you do it with someone who plays an integral role in your life. Often, just seeing someone you love and trust with your feelings is enough to provide relief from anxiety.

A BIG “O” IS JUST WHAT THE DOCTOR ORDERED

As beautiful and satisfying as the act of sex can be, it is but a crescendo or journey to that final, often euphoric resting place called orgasm. It is the conclusion of the plateau phase of intercourse. For women, there is some debate surrounding the pleasure and effectiveness of clitoral versus vaginal orgasms. Fact is they both feel great and provide anxiety-reversing results. Here are some of the physical and mental reactions that occur during orgasm:

  • Breathing, pulse rate and blood pressure continue to rise during sex.
  • Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak.
  • Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet.
  • An abundant release of oxytocin and endorphins occurs.
  • Following orgasm, a reduction in baseline blood pressure happens.
  • Ultimately, tension is released producing an unrivaled relaxed state of mind

When the sexual crescendo concludes, the recirculation of blood back through the brain and the balance of the body brings on a momentary sense of welcomed weakness followed by a restoration of clarity, calm, and newfound confidence (especially if your partner achieves orgasm too). It feels like all your fears are literally lifted and taken away.

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What Holds Back Your Career

Your career matters. Whether you work part-time or full-time, for yourself or others, in an office or on the move, it's a huge part of your life. It takes enormous amounts of time and energy. If your job is the right fit, then that investment rewards you.

And you know that I do not just mean financially.

That's why it pays, so to speak, to get this part of your life right. Your career is your gift to the world (and the world's gift to you). It's your legacy, your claim to fame and, for many of you, your identity.

So, I hope it's a good one.

But what do you do if it's not?

Well, that depends on what's holding you back.

Maybe you deserve a promotion. You've proven your value again and again. It's just that when you try to ask for one, something holds you back.

Or depending you work for yourself. The issue is that it's hard to find the right clients or dream up the best services.

These problems assume you already know your ideal career. But maybe you have no idea what to do with your life. What do you do then?

The truth is that all of these challenges – plus many more – have a common cause.

Imagine someone who, as a young child, learned that success leads to suffering. They may have seen an adult stay for something, achieve it, then dramatically implode. Some part of them recorded this lesson as the rest of their psyche matured around it.

Fast-forward to adulthood. Whenever they set their mind on something, their inner mind reminds the lesson. The closer they get to succeeding, the more concerned this part of them becomes. After all, your mind wants to protect you and it sees this as a threat.

So the person makes an uncharacteristic mistake and fails at the last moment.

You may not have this limiting belief around success. There are millions of different kinds, though, from "I'm not good enough to succeed" to "money is evil".

The first problem with these beliefs is that, consciously, you can know they're wrong and still follow them. Reading about all the good that money can do not shake the old belief. "Money is evil" is part of the foundations of the house, so adding new carpet will not help.

The second problem with these beliefs is that they're nonsense. You absorbed them when you were too young to know better. They became part of your background mental chatter, even though they're wrong.

Success is a great thing, money is as good as how you use it and you are good enough.

Read it and believe it, as best you can. If your limiting beliefs are weakly held, you can pry them out by learning better ones.

But if they are too deeply engrained into your foundations …

Well, you need a powerful set of tools to do the job.

Self-hypnosis peels back the veil separating your …