Q. My performance review was disappointing, although I've had two promotions in the last four years. My boss said I needed to work on showing more leadership skills when I'm working on a team. When I try to pin him down for a discussion, he brushes me aside.
A. As you move up the ladder, you'll be expected to work on your own, with less and less feedback and direction.
A lack of feedback can be a sign that you're trusted and respected. You're expected to read between the lines and interpret unwritten signals.
Start with these three questions:
Q1. What is your company's culture around performance reviews?
In some cultures, you're expected to take a negative review in stride. Responding will be viewed as defensive and insecure behavior. Other cultures value discussion and at least the appearance of openness.
Q2. What signals are you sending?
Your boss needs to know that you're willing to talk tough. You can say something like, "Do not worry about hurting my feelings. Then act on your promise.
You may say, "I'm happy with my review – just trying to learn. Can you give me some specific examples of situations where I could have demonstrated more leadership?
Q3. What's the unwritten message?
Your boss may be absolutely delided with your performance, but the rules (formal or informal) require him to include negative along with positive feedback. So he thread in some comments about leadership, which does not amount to much.
The key is to take your performance review in context. If you're receiving tangible recognition – increased responsibility, invitations to key meetings, attention from major players – you'll appear insecure if you worry about your performance review. But if you're getting warning signals – missed meetings, weaker assignments – you need to understand what's really going on. …
Are you frustrated with your weight loss program?
Most people are frustrated with their efforts to lose weight because what happens with the best plans to lose weight is that it is not sustainable. The reason it is not sustainable is because of the progress is slow and their bad eating habits are hard to break. Most people have unhealthy eating habit for most of their lives. These poor habits go back to our early childhood life style. The way that our family ate breakfast, lunch and dinner was fine for an agricultural age. People did a lot more physically to burn the amount of calories that they took in. In modern society, most people are sitting all day long and the food products of today is not as healthy as it was back in the industrial revolution.
In order for you to lose your unwanted weight, you are going to have to eat a healthier diet which means staying away from fried and processed foods. Also, you have to reduce the amount of food that you eat on a daily basis. You have to also avoid snacking after dinner, which is the worst time to eat. If you don’t have any discipline, nothing is going to change and you will continue to gain weight and put yourself at risk of dying at an early age because of one of the diseases relate to poor diet. Most people in this country are way over weight and they are playing with fire because when they approach the age of 50 and 60 in bad shape they will encounter all kinds of irreversible health problems.
Is routine daily exercise necessary?
Physical activity is 20% of the weight loss program. You have to try to burn more calories that you are taking in order to lose weight because if you eat and sit on the couch and watch TV every night you are just going gain more weight every day of your life. Any level of physical activity will help and making excuses will not help. There is some physical exercise that you can do if you stop making excuses. If you have some physical issues, talk to your physician.
Do you know how to set realistic goals to achieve your weight loss?
Goal setting is essential in your plan to lose weight and live a healthier life. To succeed in anything in life, you have to set goals in order to make your dreams come through. In order for you to achieve your goals, you have to verbalize it and put it down on paper. You should strategically place these goals where you can see them daily to engrain it in your subconscious. It will always work better if you set your goals in conjunction with another individual. Coaching and mentorship is very helpful if you can work with a coach/mentor to help you achieve your goals.
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Most dreams are warnings because we make too many mistakes in life. We are constantly influenced by our wild conscience, while our human conscience is one-sided and under-developed.
Our wild and primitive conscience (anti-conscience) is still active inside us. The anti-conscience is our animal, cruel, and totally absurd personality. It generates mental illnesses within our human conscience in order to control our behavior.
Fortunately, the wise unconscious mind that produces our dreams has a divine origin and a saintly nature. All dream messages have a protective character because the unconscious mind is a doctor and teacher who helps us preserve our mental stability and eliminate our wild nature.
For example, dreams about blood indicate suffering. This suffering is usually the consequence of the dreamer’s mistakes.
Whenever there is blood coming out from the dreamer’s head in a dream, the dreamer is receiving a serious warning: he or she suffers from a mental illness. He must urgently pass through psychotherapy. The unconscious psychotherapy in dream messages helps all dreamers eliminate the roots of absurdity from their minds. This is how they find sound mental health forever.
Since blood in dreams represents pain and this pain is caused by the dreamer’s mistakes (because he/she is influenced by his absurd anti-conscience), the truth is that blood and mental disorders are always related in dreams, even when the blood doesn’t come out of the dreamer’s head.
For example, a certain dreamer who used to abuse her body dreamt that she was paralyzed in her bed, and she couldn’t move. While she was immobilized this way, there was blood coming out from her body.
Since the dreamer was in her bed, this means that she was sick. This shocking dream scene indicates that the dreamer suffers from a mental illness. Her disease is a mental disorder, and not a physical disease.
The blood that was coming out from her body was the pain she was feeling for being mentally ill. However, she couldn’t move because she was passively accepting the absurdity of her anti-conscience, which was invading her human conscience and destroying her human side.
She needed an urgent treatment. Fortunately, she was following dream therapy. The same dreamer had many dreams that clearly revealed a suicidal tendency.
Pay attention to your dreams, and pay attention to the dreams of others. You may learn the dreams of your friends or family members. Whenever they mention blood in their dreams, you should help them understand that they need psychotherapy. In case you have dreams about blood, especially coming out of your head, you should urgently follow dream therapy.
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Here's how phobias work.
There are two parts to your mind – one that thinks, and one that feels.
The thinking part is the conscious, rational mind that you are using now as you read this.
The feeling part is the unconscious, emotional mind. It takes care of automatic tasks like regulating the heart, controlling pain and managing our instincts.
It's the unconscious mind that is programmed to act instinctively in times of danger. It reacts very fast – making you run or fight – rather than allowing your thinking mind to philosophize while you are attacked by a tiger. This has great survival value.
The unconscious mind is also a very fast learner. The same emergency route that can bypass the rational mind in times of danger can also stamp strong emotional experiences (traumatic ones) in the unconscious mind. This makes evolutionary sense – it ensures that we have vivid imprints of the things that threaten us.
And just as we have two minds, so we have two memory systems: one for the facts and one for the emotions that may or may not go with those facts.
Sometimes, when a person experiences a very traumatic event, the highly emotional memory of the event becomes trapped – locked in the emotional brain – in an area called the amygdala which is the emotional storehouse. There is no chance for the rational mind to process it and save it as an ordinary, non-threatening memory in actual storage (in the hippocampus). Like the memory of what you did last weekend.
Instead, the emotional brain holds onto this unprocessed reaction pattern because it thinks it needs it for survival. And it will trigger it whenever you encounter a situation or object that is anything like the original trauma. It does not have to be a precise match.
This is pure survival again. You only need to see part of a tiger through the bushses for the fear reaction to kick in again – for the "fight or flight" response to trigger – you do not have to wait until you see the whole tiger or identify it exactly as the tiger that attacked you before. In fact, it probably only has to be something orange and black moving through the bushes. This is why the pattern matching process is necessary approximate, or sloppy. You err on the side of safety. You do not have to have all the details to know if something is dangerous.
This is the basis of a phobia: a fear response attached to something that was present in the original trauma. The response is terror, shaking, sweating, heart pounding etc. And because of the sloppy pattern-matching it can get stuck to literally anything – animal, mineral or vegetable. It may not even be glued to the thing that caused the trauma. So a child attacked in a pram by a dog may develop a phobia of prams rather than dogs.
It is because phobias are created in this …